Positive Pause – 29th June, 2015 – Harmony

“Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.”
Mahatma Gandhi

This week, focus on being honest with yourself.  Allow yourself to experience a freedom of mind and body that comes from separation from the ego.

Many of us have experienced that wonderful feeling of being in harmony and sync with ourselves.  The benefits of this harmonious and peaceful state are paramount for your mental and physical well being.

Focus on seeing the best in each person and each situation, no matter how challenging.  Slowly, you begin to think more positively, speak more positively and behave in a way that is kind to yourself and to those around you. When we consider the incredible achievement of what Gandhi overcame through personal positive empowerment we can take his example as inspiration to help us in our daily lives.

Positive Pause – 22nd June – Laughter

This week tap into the part of you that loves to laugh. Recall what it was like to be a child when your main concern was to play, have fun with friends and above all, laugh. As we grow up, we inevitably acquire a lot of responsibilities that we did not have when we we were younger.  However, the importance of bringing laughter into our daily lives is essential for our well-being.

Find opportunities for humour, observe yourself and how often you laugh naturally. Seek out positive people who give you positive energy and who make you feel lighter and more open to humour.  It is important to protect your energy from negative forces.  Notice how wonderful it feels when you let go and have a good laugh: endorphins are released making you feel much happier and open to joy.  Another positive aspect is, as research demonstrates, that laughter is infectious so that when you laugh everyone else around you will also benefit from the joy of laughter.

Positive Pause – 15th June, 2015 – End Rumination

Put a halt to rumination

This week, focus on your ability to manage your thoughts and in particular, to put a halt to the exhausting habit that so many of us have – rumination.

When something happens that we don’t like, for example an aggressive driver shouts at us; our boss is in a bad mood and takes it out on us or someone close makes a comment that we find hurtful, we need to be extra vigilant as the mind has the potential to run away with the situation. We can carry such negativity with us not just in that moment but for hours and days after the event.

As Socrates said, “know thy self’.” When we are self-aware we observe negative thoughts in response to an undesired event or comment.  We can then, through acceptance and self-awareness, choose to halt the process of rumination by  distracting ourselves or by taking a positive action that breaks the cycle (like going for a walk or reading a good book). Focus on your breath and bring to mind a sense of calm.

Give your mind the rest it deserves and allow negative energy to remain at it’s source so that you can protect your cultivated positive energy.

Positive Pause – 8th June, 2015 – Rewards

Rewards

This week, consider the concept of rewards and more specifically how you choose to reward yourself after a long day at work, an intense day minding the kids, a meeting you had been dreading or having completed the chores of cleaning, cooking etc.

The truth is that we are generally  highly motivated to achieve something if we believe a reward will come at the end of our labours.  Many people have been conditioned to believe that comfort foods or alcohol or smoking is a reward that will help them to relax.  If you have any unwanted behaviours that you wish to change now is the time to change the reward patterns in your brain.

When we  experience having energy, feeling strong and healthy, feeling positive and able to manage life we have a choice to link this positive feeling  into the  reward systems of our brain.  This it the true reward for our hard work and efforts.  When we overeat, drink too much or take recreational drugs or smoke then we are in fact depriving ourselves under the illusion that we are rewarding ourselves.  Reward yourself wisely.