The Positive Habit Weekly Blog – 25th September, 2017 – the Power of a Flexible Mind

The Positive Habit Weekly Blog – 25th September, 2017 – the Power of a Flexible Mind

the power of a flexible mind

I hope you have had a wonderful week and thanks so much for reading this blog every Monday; the idea, as always is  to set you up for another week of positive vibes and to focus on the core message of the week that I feel would help you to continue to care for your mental wellbeing.

One of the books I’m currently reading is, ‘The Art of Happiness’ by the Dalai Lama. Co-written by the man himself and the psychiatrist Howard C.Cutler, it poses the question of how we can best incorporate the Buddist practice of happiness into western society.  One of the sections is about the importance of flexible thinking not just for our happiness but also for our survival.  I quote from the book:

“By adopting a flexible, malleable mind and approach to life we can maintain our composure even in the most restless and turbulent conditions.  It is through our efforts to achieve a flexible mind that we can nurture the resiliency of the human spirit.”

On Wednesday the universe presented me with a wonderful opportunity to maintain my composure and display a flexible mind about something I had already decided firmly upon – my up-and-coming TEDx talk.  The speakers were invited to a one-day, public speaking masterclass workshop with the very talented performance coach,  Padraig Hyland. I turned up a bit like an overeager child on her first day at a new school – so keen to meet new people and show off just how much work I had done. My preparation for the content of my talk was almost complete (or so I thought) so when the time came to showcase the work we had done I was the first to jump at the opportunity and hardly paused to centre myself. Not so mindful!

Although the coach seemed content with my ability to perform, he and the other speakers agreed that I had packed way too much information into too short a time and as a result, my core message was not clear! Oh my God! This was a bit of a knock since, of course, it all made perfect sense to me. Anyhow, I took a deep breath, centered myself (better late than never) and listened carefully to the feedback; it was after all, a great opportunity to learn,  to progress and to create an even better talk. I was advised to share much more of myself in the talk rather than relying on quotes and facts to back me up and as a result, the direction of the talk has shifted a lot. Watch this space!

The root of a flexible mind is to not take things personally. Remaining objective allows clarity and true creativity to form.

Think of an occasion when you had (or still have) a ‘fixed’ idea about something which may have been causing disagreement, it could be at work or at home in your personal life. Take a step back and consider how being flexible and objective might change the situation for the better for all involved.Have a wonderful week and I look forward to sharing some more flexible thinking next week.  Keep sharing!

Love Yourself Slim’   is now SOLD OUT! 
Elsa Jones and I are very excited about the forthcoming workshops. If you would like your name added to a list for future workshops, please email me with your details.
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TEDxTALLAGHT

There are only a handful of tickets left for this event so if you haven’t yet booked then do so today!  You can buy tickets at  www.civictheatre.ie and also see a full list of the speakers at
http://www.tedxtallaght.com/2017-speakers
It promises to be an educational and entertaining evening. 

Maintenance Program

Sustaining Positivity – The Positive Habit Maintenance Program is now in month three! You can sign up at any time. We are delighted to see so many people register for this invaluable tool.  It is incredibly affordable, has a minimum time investment and maximum benefit for your mental well-being. This program is suitable for you if you have already completed The Positive Habit and/or if you have already started a journey of self-discovery and would like a powerful tool to help you to live a full and happy life.

Included in your monthly subscription you will receive access to (on the 1st of each month):

  • A video explaining what the theme of the month is and how best to put it into practice
  • A new MP3 targeted at the theme of the month
  • New articles
  • Quizzes to monitor your progress

Month Three is entitled, ‘Your Inner Confidence’ in which I will guide you to be truly grateful for who you are and all that you have.

We have had to remove The Positive Habit Plus program for the moment due to Fiona’s busy schedule.

You can, of course still register for The Positive Habit, Self-Help Program

The Positive Habit Weekly Blog – 18th September, 2017 – Does Pleasure Lead to Happiness?

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Consider for a moment the difference between pleasure and happiness. Is the man in the picture above feeling pleasure or happiness? What’s the difference and does one always lead to the other?Last week I was working on the content for the upcoming “Love Yourself Slim” workshops and really trying to get across the idea that it is not about favouring one body type over another; ‘slim’ in this sense simply means ‘healthy’.  Do you love yourself healthy? And if not, take a moment to consider what is holding you back? Quite often we have negative conditioned beliefs from our past that lead us to believe we need something outside of ourselves to improve our lives.  Whether that is a big house, an expensive car or food that ‘comforts’ us, these material things actually bring us a lot more discomfort and stress than comfort and happiness.

Being healthy in body and healthy in mind is happiness.

Pleasure is something that is transient – indulging in chocolate, alcohol or drugs may bring a temporary sense of pleasure but ultimately such behaviour can lead to great unhappiness. How can we truly feel happy if we are not healthy?

One of the principal messages I want to convey in my work is that it is essential for us to focus on behaviour that is pleasurable but at the same time leads to our greater happiness.  Retraining our neural pathways to accept behaviour that truly and genuinely rewards us is crucial. For example, if an unwanted emotion arises, then rather than trying to escape from it by indulging in food, alcohol or shopping, we learn to take the courage to accept and sit with the emotion before choosing an alternative positive behaviour that really rewards us such as going for a walk, practising yoga or having a chat with a close friend or family member.

I would like to welcome all the new subscribers to the blog; I really appreciate you being here with us.  I would also like to thank my subscribers who have been with me since the beginning which is now nearly two years! It is truly wonderful to have your continued support. Please keep the feedback coming in – I really enjoy hearing that it has lifted your week. As always, please help this community to grow by encouraging friends and family to subscribe.

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If you would like to watch the show from last Monday when Elsa Jones and I appeared to chat about the forthcoming ‘Love Yourself Slim’ workshops, please click here and set the player to 17 mins 50 seconds.
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The ‘Love Yourself Slim’ workshops are ALMOST SOLD OUT!
To ensure you get a place please register here

Saturday 30th September & Saturday 7th October 9 am – 1 pm

Venue: UCD O’Brien Centre For Science, Stillorgan Rd, Belfield, Dublin 4

Elsa Jones & Fiona Brennan, two of Ireland’s leading weight-management experts collaborate for a
Two-day weight loss workshop and create
One Opportunity for you to take control of your emotional eating and develop healthy eating habits for life!
For full information on the content of the workshops – please click here.

TEDxTALLAGHT

Tickets are now on sale for my up-and-coming TEDxTalk on October 12th . If you are interested in attending please book asap as tickets sell fast.  You can buy tickets on  www.civictheatre.ie and also see a full list of the speakers on
http://www.tedxtallaght.com/2017-speakers
It promises to be an educational and entertaining evening.

Maintenance Program

Sustaining Positivity – The Positive Habit Maintenance Program is now in month three! You can sign up at any time. We are delighted to see so many people register for this invaluable tool.  It is incredibly affordable, has a minimum time investment and maximum benefit for your mental well-being. This program is suitable for you if you have already completed The Positive Habit and/or if you have already started a journey of self-discovery and would like a powerful tool to help you to live a full and happy life.

Included in your monthly subscription you will receive access to (on the 1st of each month):

  • A video explaining what the theme of the month is and how best to put it into practice
  • A new MP3 targeted at the theme of the month
  • New articles
  • Quizzes to monitor your progress

Month Three is entitled, ‘Your Inner Confidence’ in which I will guide you to be truly grateful for who you are and all that you have.

Due to the high demand for the upgrade version of The Positive Habit (with personal therapy) we have decided to reintroduce the online, self-help program (€99.95).
N.B. The upgrade version has been renamed The Positive Habit Plus & is only available to eight clients per month. 

The Positive Habit Weekly Blog – 11th September, 2017 – A Journey of Kindness

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On Wednesday I took the train from Dublin to Cork and back. I was asked to launch the CIPD Southern Region’s new season of events. CIPD is a representative organisation committed to helping those in the HR industry and it stresses the humanity and human angle in HR.On the way, I decided to partake in one of my favourite activities,  people watching! This time though I decided to seek out people being kind to one another. I was pleasantly surprised by my first encounter on the DART where a local man patiently explained to some Italian tourists the way to ‘Tempe bar’. They had a low level of English and the man displayed incredible patience in helping them to understand. I next observed a security man on the LUAS holding doors open for people so they didn’t miss their tram. Then on the train I saw a friend offering his shoulder to a friend to lie on to ease a creak in his neck. I overheard a solicitor give free advice to a young couple worried they were going to lose their home. These may all seem like small things but they really matter and make a difference to those concerned.

An act of kindness towards someone else reminds us of our humanity and our connection to one another.
On Saturday I was one of the fortunate souls who got to spend an evening with Eckhart Tolle at the RDS.  I am a long time fan and recall reading his book, ‘The Power of Now,’ when it first came out in 1999 but at that time I don’t think I understood a word; as my friend kindly put it,  “I wasn’t ready” to absorb his wisdom.  I was certainly ready on Saturday evening along with all the people that queued up to see one of the greatest spiritual leaders of our time in my opinion. What struck me was just how amusing and entertaining he is; we all sat riveted for two hours listening to every word he said.  He had many ‘Mr. Bean’ moments where to illustrate a point he would make a brilliant and funny expression. Tolle teaches us to go beyond thought, like the words in the temple of Apollon, to know ourselves is where our freedom lies. Knowing ourselves according to Tolle, is sitting still and asking ourselves, “Who am I?” Listening to the response and knowing that it is not the case, real self-knowledge is being comfortable with the not knowing.  Tricky to grasp cognitively but then when we go beyond thought we don’t have to worry about that!

This week, look for opportunities where you can help someone in whatever way you can. It makes a world of difference to that person and ultimately to the world we live in. Work on the idea of cultivating an alert stillness that comes when you are free from thought and totally absorbed in the joy of life.

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Elsa Jones and I will appear on the Elaine Show on TV3 next Monday, 11th September to chat about the workshops and how they will be life-changing for those who have been battling with weight loss. If you get a chance please tune in!
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Feeling the Love
The Early Bird Offer for   ‘Love Yourself Slim’ has been extended! 
Please Register HereSaturday 30th September & Saturday 7th October 9 am – 1 pm

Early Bird OFFER Extended for one Week Until Sunday, September 17thVenue: UCD O’Brien Centre For Science, Stillorgan Rd, Belfield, Dublin 4

Elsa Jones & Fiona Brennan, two of Ireland’s leading weight-management experts collaborate for a
Two-day weight loss workshop and create
One Opportunity for you to take control of your emotional eating and develop healthy eating habits for life!
For full information on the content of the workshops – please click here.

TEDxTALLAGHT

Tickets are now on sale for my up-and-coming TEDxTalk on October 12th . If you are interested in attending please book asap as tickets sell fast.  You can buy tickets on  www.civictheatre.ie and also see a full list of the speakers on
http://www.tedxtallaght.com/2017-speakers
It promises to be an educational and entertaining evening.

Maintenance Program

Sustaining Positivity – The Positive Habit Maintenance Program is now in month three! You can sign up at any time. We are delighted to see so many people register for this invaluable tool.  It is incredibly affordable, has a minimum time investment and maximum benefit for your mental well-being. This program is suitable for you if you have already completed The Positive Habit and/or if you have already started a journey of self-discovery and would like a powerful tool to help you to live a full and happy life.

Included in your monthly subscription you will receive access to (on the 1st of each month):

  • A video explaining what the theme of the month is and how best to put it into practice
  • A new MP3 targeted at the theme of the month
  • New articles
  • Quizzes to monitor your progress

Month Three is entitled, ‘Your Inner Confidence’ in which I will guide you to be truly grateful for who you are and all that you have.

Due to the high demand for the upgrade version of The Positive Habit (with personal therapy) we have decided to reintroduce the online, self-help program (€99.95).
N.B. The upgrade version has been renamed The Positive Habit Plus & is only available to eight clients per month.