The Positive Habit Weekly Blog – 26th March, 2018 – The Miracle of Aging

The Positive Habit Weekly Blog – 26th March, 2018 – The Miracle of Aging

Dear Positive Habit People,

How do you view age? My husband turned half a century on Thursday last week and rather than running for the hills, I’ve never loved him more.  A few months ago myself and my son, Luca were chatting about the “big” birthday coming up and at the age of just one decade he asked me, “But what is growing old and why is it bad to grow old? We are culturally conditioned to be old is a negative thing.  Then he said, “Maybe we are like objects and the older we get the more precious we get.”

His words, not mine. The cynic may dismiss this as easy for him to say as he is only ten and has his whole life ahead of him. And, while that is true, we also need to acknowledge that our lives are here and now and not to be wished away. You know the way it goes – “I can’t wait for the weekend, next month, my holidays, when I get this job, when I lose weight…” The list goes on and on!

Instead, by using the power of presence and living in the moment we wake up to the full beauty of life and age becomes irrelevant.

It simply ceases to be an issue and we become open and fully alive. To quote another super aware individual, Ruby Wax, author of “Sane New World,”

“ … if you were attentive to your life rather than simply getting through it, then even if a doctor told you – you only had six months to live, if you were awake to every minute, it would be longer than if you had 100 years to live in an unconscious state.” 

This week, let go your concerns around the concept of age and aging. Acknowledge that we all get older but ask yourself is that really such a bad thing?  Is it in fact, not wonderful? The older we are the more life we have lived and to be alive now is a miracle. My son’s life is a miracle, Ruby Wax’s life is a miracle, your life is a miracle. Share your wisdom.

See below for my latest video: The Positive Habit, Stress-Free, Anxiety-Free, Week Eight. Can You Look in the Mirror and say “I love you?”

I’m really happy to report that these videos are helping people so please do share them with anyone you feel may benefit from some extra love and care.

The Positive Habit – Anxiety-Free, Stress-Free – Week 8

Can you look in the mirror and say “I love you?”

the miracle of aging

Social Anxiety affects 16.8% of Irish people. Social media is a place where people judge and compare themselves to others.

The Positive Habit self-therapy program builds true inner confidence and helps people to feel calm in any social situation whether at work or with friends.

This program helps people to face the world, both virtual and physical, with true self-belief. It takes 66 days and costs €99.95 – a small investment in time and money given the true benefits it delivers.

Please take the Anxiety Test

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The Positive Habit Weekly Blog – 19th March, 2018 – Sans Souci – Without Worries

The Positive Habit Weekly Blog – 19th March, 2018 – Sans Souci – Without Worries

Dear Positive Habit People,

Happy Bank Holiday Monday! I hope you make time for some fun and laughter today.

Last Monday morning I was in Berlin having had a great weekend of fun and frolics with my sister, who as regular readers will know, lives there. Some people are like a ray of sunshine or a disco ball of love and light and my sister and her husband are definitely that for me. Going to Berlin always makes me feel about 12 years old again and I love the feelings of freedom that these trips engender. On the Sunday it was beautifully sunny and an unseasonable 17 degrees so we visited ‘Sans Souci’ in Potsdam, just outside Berlin. This is the famous summer palace of Frederick the Great, King of Prussia (1740-1786).

Sans Souci was Frederick’s playground where he invited many guests, including Voltaire, to lavish parties. The essence of the palace captured the fun I felt that day and the next so in the spirit of San Souci I went for a run wearing my very attractive fleecy pajamas, you know the type I mean! My sister assured me that this was a ‘cool’ outfit in Berlin and that nobody would bat an eyelid. Wow – it was liberating! Still wearing my fleecy pink pajamas I slid down some fantastic slides in the park beside their apartment and let my inner child fully out to play.

This week, especially today since it is a holiday, embrace the lighter side of life. Recall that when you were a child the main focus of the day was to play and to have fun. As adults we still need to do this, but we often take our worries with us unlike Frederick the Great who created a space in his life far away from war and his autocratic father. Carve this time and space into your life where you can leave responsibility behind and let out your inner child. You don’t have to go for a run in your pyjamas, but do find a time and place to be free from worry and stress.

Travel inspires me and Ryanair is to me what Sans Souci palace was once to Frederick the great.

See below my latest video: The Positive Habit, Stress-Free, Anxiety-Free, Week Seven – Change your relationship to anxiety and stress from pressure to compassion.

I’m really happy to report that these videos are helping people so please do share them with anyone you feel may benefit from some extra love and care.

The Positive Habit – Anxiety Free, Stress Free – Week 7- Tips & Dealing with Anxiety and Stress

Change Your relationship to anxiety from pressure to compassion 

sans souci

Social Anxiety affects 16.8% of Irish people. Social media is a place where people judge and compare themselves to others.

The Positive Habit self-therapy program builds true inner confidence and helps people to feel calm in any social situation whether at work or with friends.

This program helps people to face the world, both virtual and physical, with true self-belief. It takes 66 days and costs €99.95 – a small investment in time and money given the true benefits it delivers.

Please take the Anxiety Test

To register for a 30-day, risk free, trial please click below. 30 Day Money Back Guarantee – 6 Months Access.

If you are in financial difficulties then please consider the bursary scheme. Our goal to help as many people as we can to feel calm,confident and in control.

The Positive Habit Weekly Blog – 12th March, 2018 – Heart Intelligence

The Positive Habit Weekly Blog – 12th March, 2018 – Heart Intelligence

Dear Positive Habit people,

I hope this email finds you well. How is your heart? Ivor Browne, the eminent Irish psychiatrist, first introduced me to groundbreaking information about the incredible intelligence of the heart, the seat of our emotions.

Did you know that our hearts have 10,000 neurons that are the similar to those in the brain? This is known as ‘heart intelligence’ and the ‘little brain’ in the heart. We use the word heart to express our emotions in so many different ways; from the bottom of your heart, to break someone’s heart, to cross your heart, to eat your heart out, to be half-hearted about something, to have a change of heart, to have a heart of gold and the list goes on. In ancient Egypt, as part of the mummifying process, they threw away the brain and conserved the heart because they believed it was the most important organ. However, in the development of biological science the fact that the heart was discovered as being responsible for pumping blood throughout the body allowed Descarte’s rather mechanical view to become the dominant one in the West and the heart was considered to have no intelligence of its own. Recent research has shown that the heart is much more than just an organ that pumps blood around the body.

David Malone’s incredible documentary, ‘Heart vs Mind’ (Ivor Browne recommended this documentary to me) is a fascinating introduction to the concept of the heart as having an inherent intelligence.

When we operate from heart we use a very different operating system, one that is based on love, kindness, and compassion.


This week imagine your thoughts sifting down towards your heart and letting your heart not your mind lead you in your relationships and the choices that you make. Even if you are not naturally an affectionate person, open yourself to giving and receiving hugs – they increase oxytocin levels and open your heart as well as calming the sympathetic nervous system. If you can hold the embrace for 15 seconds all the better, the longer  the more positive the impact.

Have a lovely, snow-free week and please watch the latest in my video series ‘The Positive Habit, Stress-Free, Anxiety-Free, Week Five – How to Release Anxiety With Compassion’.

The feedback for the previous videos in this series has been great and I am delighted that they seem to be helping people to live more calmly.

Please listen to my podcast for Mind Yourself Now! on the  Dermot & Dave Show on Today FM in which I discussed social anxiety which affects almost 20% of Irish people.

heart intelligence

The Positive Habit – Anxiety Free – Stress-Free – Week 6 – Tips and Hacks for Dealing with Anxiety and Stress

Getting a Space Between You & Your Anxiety

heart intelligence

Social Anxiety affects 16.8% of Irish people. Social media is a place where people judge and compare themselves to others.

The Positive Habit self-therapy program builds true inner confidence and helps people to feel calm in any social situation whether at work or with friends.

This program helps people to face the world, both virtual and physical, with true self-belief. It takes 66 days and costs €99.95 – a small investment in time and money given the true benefits it delivers.

Please take the Anxiety Test

To register for a 30-day, risk free, trial please click below. 30 Day Money Back Guarantee – 6 Months Access.

If you are in financial difficulties then please consider the bursary scheme. Our goal to help as many people as we can to feel calm,confident and in control.

The Positive Habit Weekly Blog – 5th March, 2018 – Slow Time

The Positive Habit Weekly Blog – 5th March, 2018 – Slow Time

Dear Positive Habit people,

I hope you are all well and safe this Monday morning. A big thanks to all those who worked on the emergency response to the extreme weather and helped keep roads open and got people to hospital etc.

If you live in Ireland as many of my readers do and especially if you live in the East of the country you will be waking up to the first ‘normal’ day after the extreme weather of the past week with #thebeastfromtheeast and #stormemma which forced most of us into hibernation to escape from the elements. The media hype over this was almost relentless and for those of us prone to anxiety it felt like setting a foot outside the door could lead to imminent death!

SO…how did you respond?  Being cooped up at home for days on end, especially if you have kids, can be quite a challenge. When we are forced to ‘slow down’ by such events we are provided with a rare opportunity to learn about ourselves and how we respond to the situation.

Busyness creates the perfect hiding place, so what happens when we have no choice but to slow down?

Personally, part of me went straight into resistance mode on Wednesday morning when the snow started; what do you mean we have to cancel the meeting? Why can’t my clients travel to their appointments? How dare the school close? How inconvenient! Why is my husband home from work in the middle of the day?

Thankfully, when I accepted the situation things got brighter and it wasn’t just the reflection from the amazing snow! I seized the opportunity with both hands, grabbed a snowball and threw it at my son! It was even beginning to feel a lot like the Christmas holidays so we roasted a chicken and baked cakes. I found myself playing chess and started to make a dress with my mum and son, something I’ve wanted to do for ages. Many years ago, when I was a child, my mother made her own clothes so cutting the fabric and following the pattern made me appreciate the beauty of making something from scratch and the connection I have with my loved ones. Each time I wear the dress this summer I will be reminded of that special time, the snow of 2018!

Nature has taught us a lesson – that we need to implement more of this ‘slow time’ to help us to reconnect – no matter what the weather!

Have a lovely, snow-free week and please watch the latest in my video series The Positive Habit, Stress-Free, Anxiety-Free, Week Five – How to Release Anxiety With Compassion.

The feedback for the previous videos has been great and I am delighted that they are helping people to live more peacefully.

If you get a chance this morning at 10.30.am, tune into the Dermot & Dave Show on Today FM for Mind Yourself Now! I’ll be discussing social anxiety which affects almost 20% of Irish people.

slow time

The Positive Habit – Anxiety Free – Stress-Free – Week 5 – Tips and Hacks for Dealing with Anxiety and Stress

How to Release Anxiety With Compassion

slow time

Sleep Better Tonight?

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